What is Your Life Reflecting? The Creation of Your Beliefs

(This is the second of the series called, “What is your life reflecting?” which is designed to help you begin to explore how your outer life is mirroring your inner world.)


“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.” Tony Robbins

• Are your relationships satisfying or do you often attract people who don’t respect you?
• Do you follow through with goals you set, or do you tend to sabotage your success?
• Do you value who you are, or do you tend to criticize and judge yourself?
• In terms of money, does it flow to you or do you live from paycheck to paycheck?

How you answer these questions may be indicators of the beliefs you hold about yourself .

We have a powerful force operating within us that is a big factor in the creation of our reality. And that’s our belief system. Beliefs form the foundation of our view of the world and our reaction to events. They create the structure or parameters for our lives. What we manifest in our lives can often be traced back to our beliefs. Our beliefs allow in love and abundance or keep us stuck in unsatisfactory relationships and scarcity. They can help us move forward or sabotage our change.

Examples of beliefs that empower us are “I trust the decisions I make, I am capable of handling life on my own, I deserve abundance.” Examples of beliefs that are limiting or hold us back include, “I’m not good enough, I must be perfect, everyone must approve of what I do.” We all have unique variations of beliefs in every area of our lives, and they’re often stored in our unconscious. How we react to an event is not about the situation or the other person involved, it’s about our belief about ourselves in relationship to the situation or person. If there are areas of your life where you feel stuck, unfulfilled or frustrated, or continue to repeat ineffective or unhealthy patterns it’s very likely there is some belief that is holding that in place. And, you may not even be aware that it is there.

These beliefs were usually formed a long time ago as a reaction to how we got our needs met, our interpretation of events, and from the messages we received from people important to us. We took them on when we were too young to know better, as we had no other frame of reference. They were created as a way to make sense of the world and to adapt and fit in to our surroundings growing up. They become “wired” in to our neurology and carried in our energy field. We came to believe that that’s who we are. They became sacred on the deepest level. There’s a part of us that believes that great harm will come to us if we change these beliefs. Even if they’re not true.

A child who grows up feeling loved and supported, is allowed to learn from mistakes, and learns appropriate boundaries will develop certain beliefs about him/herself and the world. Another child raised in a family where there is harsh discipline, a lack of love and attention, and use of shame as a way of controlling behavior will learn different beliefs. Often we are raised in loving families and we can still form limiting beliefs due to our misinterpretation of events. Sometimes we outgrow these beliefs. (Remember Santa Claus? I totally believed in that guy, and created a whole reality around that) Other times, even though we grow up, we still carry the beliefs formed as a child, which affect situations today.

Two of the biggest fears we have are the fear of being abandoned or alone, and the fear of losing control. These fears cause us to think it’s not safe to move beyond the boundaries we’ve set up for ourselves. Or, we shut down our hearts in an attempt to never be hurt again. So, we hold on tightly to these beliefs, even in the face of evidence to the contrary. Even when the belief keep us in the grip of addictions, unhealthy relationships, and repeated patterns that don’t work. We believe that’s who we are, what we deserve, or the only way to deal with life.

Often we become a victim to our creation and dissatisfied with ourselves and life. We make statements such as, “that’s just how I am”, or blame others or our environment. Instead, we can use this negativity as a sign that there’s something within us that needs to change. Not because we’re broken, defective or hopeless, but because we are part of the Divine and are more than the illusions we’ve created about ourselves.

We all have experience of changing our beliefs. If we were to look back on who we were 10-15 years ago, most of us can see how we’ve grown. We change beliefs for a number of reasons: when we’re tired of the consequences of the old belief; when we’ve learned all we need to from it; when we’re sick and tired of being sick and tired; and when the new possibilities become too compelling to stay where we are. On our path of evolution, we are guided by our Soul to move through these illusions towards wholeness. At some point, when we listen to our deepest wisdom, we begin to open up to the idea that there is more than this. That we are more. We begin to open up to the truth of who we really are. That’s our destiny.


Next month we’ll look at ways of uncovering the beliefs you hold on an unconscious level so you can begin to release old patterns when you’re ready.