Loving Your Heart Open

Loving Your Heart Open

“A simple choice to be loving, even just for yourself, changes your life forever.”
John Morton


Think of a time when you truly felt loving for something or someone. A time when you loved unconditionally in the moment, with no expectations………… There is nothing on this planet that is stronger than this loving that comes from our Soul, fills us up and goes out into the world. This energy has the power to heal, to ease any pain and move us into higher levels of consciousness. This is not something we need to develop or learn to do. This is our birthright and our destiny, and always available to us. Our soul sees everything through the eyes of love, with no judgment. That is the journey of the Soul. To help us return to this place of innocence and unconditional loving for ourselves and all of life. To come in to a place of balance and oneness. .

So, what blocks us from always having this available? On this physical level, we have all experienced disappointments, rejection, and betrayal. We’ve had our heart broken in many ways. We often respond to these situations by losing trust, not fully engaging in life and shutting down our heart. We create illusions and form limiting beliefs about what love is. We have a very narrow definition of love.

• We learn that people withhold love if we’re “bad.”
• We learn that we receive love if we do what is expected.
• We learn to abandon ourselves in order to stay in a relationship or please others.
• We learn that it’s not okay to love ourselves just as we are.
• We learn that it’s not safe to share our loving.

Because of our experiences and narrow definition of what love is, we often believe that we’re not loveable. We learn to seek love outside of ourselves as a way of filling this hole, often recreating unhealthy patterns that we learned early on. We disconnect from parts of ourselves that we find unacceptable, and use love as a form of control.

We lose touch with that sweet softness and innocence that is our Soul. Our true essence is one of loving and joy. When our heart is closed, it creates a void that can only be filled from within. Even in the most horrific situation, Love asks us if we can keep our heart open and trust. Even in the darkest hour, can we turn to the Light?

As always, our first step in any change is awareness of the current pattern. In the “privacy of your own mind”, honestly answer these questions:

Do you withhold your love if someone doesn’t do what you want or when you feel hurt?

Do you shut down your heart in order to be safe?

How do you handle loneliness?

Have you let go of past hurts and any feelings of being abandoned?

What parts of yourself and others do you judge?

Is your love for yourself conditional? Do you plan to love yourself when you….. lose weight, make more money, get married, let go of anger. (fill in the blank)


As we become aware of our motivations behind our expressions of love, we may begin to see that we do not always have the purest of intent. This is part of the human expression and ego. We can let go of any judgment of that and know that it’s all part of our learning. Once we set our intention to not be controlled by negativity, to let love in, to express this loving in our daily life, miracles begin to occur. They may not be the kind of miracles that are visible on the outside. These are the miracles that heal past wounds, remove the separation we feel from others, and, allow us to know that we are enough just as we are.


Opening up to this loving may seem like a daunting task. For some, it may be letting go of a lifetime of resentment. This may have been used as an armor of protection, and there can be fear of being hurt if the heart is opened. We don’t have to do it all at once. Here are a couple of suggestions as a way to start. Trust your own inner guidance for other ideas that may be better for you.

1. Each morning, set your intention to open your heart and be in your loving for your highest good. Access a time when you felt that loving, and imagine yourself going through your day in this state. If you get pulled in to negativity during the day, simply love the part of you that’s angry or anxious or guilty.
2. At the end of the day, when you’re lying in bed, once again access that feeling of loving, and send it throughout your body. Be in gratitude and appreciation for all parts of you.

This loving energy will take on a life of its own once we set our intention of allowing it in, and continue coming back to that. That is our True Nature.

Life can be very difficult, with many challenges. Our job is to learn how to bring Loving
in to these times. As we begin to love more, we begin to see all of life as sacred. We begin to see that the beauty, pain, successes, mistakes are expressions of God, and learn to honor it all. We can open our heart and be still, and let our soul’s expression guide us in our choices.



“You may not always be clear in your direction, but if you keep moving and let love lead, the direction will clarify itself.” John-Roger